Shibari, the Japanese art of tight binding / rope bondage, has gained popularity in recent years as a form of self-expression, art, and intimate connection.
However, as with any practice involving physical restraint, it is crucial to approach shibari with caution and respect for safety guidelines.
In this article, I will discuss nine common mistakes that beginners often make in shibari and how to avoid them. By understanding these mistakes, you can ensure a safer and more enjoyable experience in your journey into shibari.
One of the most significant mistakes novice shibari enthusiasts make is not being aware of the body parts that should be avoided when tying. It is crucial to familiarize yourself with the nerve map of the human body to understand which areas are safe for restraint.
Generally, it is advised to avoid tying close to joints, such as elbows and knees, as well as sensitive areas like armpits. Educate yourself on shibari safety by referring to resources that provide detailed information on this topic.
Many newcomers to shibari make the mistake of attempting complex ties and harnesses without adequately honing their skills. Starting with difficult videos or trying intricate knots without comprehensive knowledge can be risky. Instead, it is recommended to begin with beginner-friendly videos or invest in a comprehensive video course. (Like the ones on my YouTube Channel!)
These resources provide a structured approach that starts with basic techniques and gradually progresses to more advanced ones, ensuring a solid foundation in shibari. If you want a good start, try this absolutely free course, that will give you important information and your first knots in shibari!
While learning through videos can be effective, it is essential to supplement your education with practical experience. Private or group sessions led by experienced practitioners can provide valuable guidance and feedback, ensuring you learn and practice safely.
Although it may be tempting to jump straight into suspensions, it is crucial to master floor work before attempting more challenging techniques. Practicing suspensions without proper training can lead to accidents and injuries.
Building open and transparent communication with your model is important in shibari. Prior to any session, it is essential to speak with your model about their fears, desires, and any physical conditions or limitations. Understanding their boundaries will help establish trust, ensuring a safe and consensual experience. Remember to ask the right questions to anticipate any potential issues and communicate your intentions clearly.
Shibari is not a platform for showing off or satisfying your ego. Trying to impress your model by attempting advanced techniques that you are not confident in can lead to harm. It is important to prioritize safety over personal validation.
Be honest with yourself and your model about your skill level and limitations. Do not be afraid to decline requests if you feel unprepared. Saying "no" shows maturity and a commitment to keeping everyone involved safe.
One common oversight is tying knots too tightly. Always ensure that you leave enough space between the rope and the model's skin, allowing for proper circulation and avoiding discomfort or injury. As a general rule, you should be able to comfortably slide two fingers between the rope and the model's body. Regularly check the tension throughout your session to prevent any unintended consequences.
Too loose is also not great. Imagine, if the ropes are loose, your model will have to hold their body position and posture so the ropes don't fall and won't be able to relax at all. So, check your tensions!
The rope is comfort and safety. Investing in good quality rope from the beginning can enhance the overall experience. High-quality ropes are less likely to cause irritation or chafing and offer a more comfortable feel.
It is worth researching and investing in ropes specifically designed for shibari, ensuring both you and your model have a positive experience. If you get the rope that is not treated for shibari, you will need to take your time (A LOT OF TIME) to make that rope usable for shibari. So yes, I highly recommend to invest in rope that is READY.
To create a safe and consensual shibari experience, it is important to avoid pressuring your partner into participating. Instead, strive for open communication and a willingness to wait until they are ready and genuinely interested. Respect their boundaries and allow them to take their time in becoming comfortable with the practice. Consenting participation is key to a mutually enjoyable experience.
As shibari gains popularity, it is more accessible for individuals to explore. However, it is crucial not to overlook the ongoing learning and commitment to safety. Stay informed about the latest safety guidelines and best practices. Continuously seek new resources and educational materials to deepen your understanding of shibari techniques and safety. By actively participating in creating a safer environment, you contribute to the growth and betterment of the shibari community.
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You don't really need anything to get started except your passion to learn... Really! (To be more serious - yes, eventually you will need more equipment and training, but to start - just one rope, your body, and some objects to tie!)
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In conclusion, shibari can be a beautiful and fulfilling practice when approached with respect, caution, and a commitment to safety. By being aware of common mistakes and taking the necessary precautions, beginners can ensure a more enjoyable and secure experience.
Remember to prioritize communication, educate yourself on proper techniques, and invest in high-quality equipment to uphold safety standards. Shibari is a journey of self-discovery and connection, and by avoiding these mistakes, you can embark on this journey with confidence.
Stay knotty my friends!
